The MindFuckery of Men

Men are simple creatures, truly. They need to be fed, hydrated and given access to video games. Which is why it’s important to note that whenever a man is faced with a challenge, his approach and decision making skills will be simple and straight forward. Especially when it comes to women. Within five minutes of meeting you, a man will throw you into the following categories:

· Fuck-able

· Date-able

· Marry-able

Once you have entered into one of those categories, it is very difficult for you to maneuver your way out of it. You can do handstands, wiggle your nose, and even dazzle them with your finger-puppet skills. None of it will cause them to mentally budge an inch regarding your status in their mental pyramid. Of course as women, we need to know why. And this is the hard part. You will never know why! Heck--half the time they don’t even know the why. It could be some deeply lodged Oedipus/Freudian shit, where they’re searching for their mom, or maybe their sub-consciously searching for someone with child-bearing hips, or the smell of eucalyptus is what gets them off. You have to be okay with not knowing!

So now that you know this. Figure out what YOU want out of the encounter. When meeting a man, how do you define if he is:

· Fuck-able

· Date-able

· Marry-able

If you are just looking for a one night—(make your lady parts happy)—kinda gig, just go for it. Smile, agree with what he says and mentally make plans to never see him again.

However, if the end goal is to meet his mama, you have to slow down and start to observe him (like the sociopath you actually are). Gather intel on how he treats you, how he treats others. Monitor his words closely, is he upfront when he tells you what he expects out of the encounter? Did he specifically say he wanted something physical and you decided on your own that you were going to change his mind? If so, you can’t be mad at someone for turning out to be exactly who they said they were. Ya feel me?

At the end of the day, there will be men who want you and there will be men who want to be with you. Make sure you can discern the difference and adjust your expectations accordingly.